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1. Be on time. Don’t you dare worry about appearing
too eager if you’re the first one there. And fashionably late only
applies to parties. Concentrate on being polite, considerate and
respectful during this first date.
2. Wear what you said you’d wear. Don’t fib so you
can have the advantage of seeing your date without being seen; it’s
cowardly and rude. If you’re a clotheshorse, don’t choose a “better”
outfit at the last minute. All the outfits in the world won’t change who
you are.
3. Ask questions. I’m not talking about an
interrogation, but everyone is flattered when asked about their
interests. Ask leading questions and listen attentively; there may be a
test later.
4. Answer questions. Let your personality shine
through with your responses, and remember that optimism is more
attractive than pessimism. Stay positive.
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1. Don’t be selfish. A monologue is not a conversation. If you do all
the talking, your date will be bored. You’ll bore your date if you don’t
talk enough too. Your goal should be to create a fairly balanced
exchange.
2. Don’t order messy foods. Some of us can’t help
ourselves when faced with spaghetti sauce, melted butter or blueberry
pie. A food stain on yourself may be “charming,” but splattering your
date with food is a definite dating don’t.
3. Don’t be rude if you decide your date is a dud.
Unless you want to rack up some bad dating karma, be honest but gentle.
“I don’t think we’re as compatible as I thought,” should suffice. Don’t
say you’ll call if you know you won’t.
4. Don’t play coy. If you’re interested, say so —
even at the risk of rejection. No guts, no glory.
To date, or not to date. That is the question. Some
are so fed up with the dating scene that they have given up hope all
together and are being forced into Single Dom. For those cynical former
daters, whether you chose to remain single or jump back into the game,
here are some tidbits to lift your spirits.
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In order to have Dating Do's and Don'ts, you have
to have a date. Many people today say that they are tired of the bar or
night club scene. The following is a list of helpful alternatives.
1. As shown on
by Charlotte, having a "Recycled Men" party can be exciting. Each person
brings a guy that they no longer have any interest in dating. Each girl
will then have a multitude of men to talk to and a bevy of choices.
2. Have fun. Don't fret and mope around about being dateless. Feel free to
laugh out loud with your friends. It may just make a certain someone
interested in why you are having such a good time.
3. Be Proactive. There is something annoying about a person who has the
"whoa is me" attitude. Join an online personals group. Join a singles
outdoor activities group. There are many singles sports groups; singles
travel groups, singles cycling groups, etc. In these types of instances,
always mitigate your own safety. There can be some definite wierdos out
there, so be careful and be cautious.
4. Look your best. There is something about looking just so. It makes
you walk taller, makes you smile more, makes you feel more confident. We
all know that feeling. Men are attracted to confidence. Make sure you
look the best you can. You will get noticed.
5. Go to the library. If you are in the market for a cerebral man, this
is your hot spot. Just go in; check out a book or a great magazine. Make
sure to sit in a populated area and look around often. Feel free to
whisper "hi" if the situation calls for it.
Ultimately, it's all up to you. Unless you are
model quality (if which, you shouldn't be reading this), men do not just
fall in your lap. This is 2006 and the rules have changed. Women are
expected to be more aggressive. Please don’t be desperate, or even close
to desperate. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. As
soon as you have confidence in your Single Dom, it all gets much easier
and becomes so much more pleasurable. Dating can be exhilarating and
quite entertaining. Besides, being single is quite fun. Did I say it was
fun? The following are some advantages to being single.
1. Flirt, as much as you want, it’s ok. There is
nothing wrong with flirting.
2. You can finally watch all the chick-flicks you want.
3. Freedom – Come and go as your please. Go to parties with friends and
stay out as late as possible.
4. Shave your legs when you want.
5. Take as long as deemed necessary to get ready for a night out.
6. Talk to your girlfriends as long as you want. Do lunch or have a
marathon phone conversation.
Since, as I mentioned before, the rules have
changed, you have the right to date or not to date. People now and days
shouldn’t be dishing out grief for you being single, well, except your
mother. You know it’s her job to ensure that grand-babies complete her
life. Put your self in my shoes, I am the seventh child of nine and the
only sibling without kids of her own. You could imagine the grief that I
get from family members. If you are in the middle of a war and are being
bombarded by questions and comments from family and friends as to your
singleness, here are some great comebacks.
1. Back in your day, people didn’t live as long and
that was the need for getting hitched by the time you were 25.
2. Unlike some people, I wish to actually contribute to my marriage. I
am concentrating on my career.
3. Because 2.3 million people a year get married. And over 50% of those
end in divorce. I want to wait until I am sure and ready.
There is something serene and powerful
about a woman who wants to be her own person and has no qualms about
being single. Have you ever noticed how most women let work |